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Episode 76: Sex Nerd Sandra
Healthy Kink

Sex Nerd Sandra #76: Healthy Kink

BDSM, SWINGING, & POWER PLAY! Psych grad student & researcher Ryan Witherspoon stimulates our ears with kinky knowledge! TOPICS: Swingers vs Polyamory, Psychological Research, Healthy Kink, Pain vs. Sensation, Stress-Reduction, Power Play, Service Tops, BDSM vs Abuse, Control, Trust & Pride, Surprising Research, Male Submissives, Pre-Play Negotiations, Boosting Self-Esteem, Open Conversation, Fidelity, Abundance vs Scarcity, and Mindful Jealousy!

Ryan Witherspoon has published peer-reviewed research and regularly presents at academic conferences nationwide on the topics of sexual minorities and alternative lifestyles, as well as school bullying and mindfulness-based practices.  Ryan will receive his Master’s degree in psychology from Pepperdine University in April, enroute to earning his Ph.D.  Additionally Ryan is a state-certified sexual assault advocate and co-founder of Psychotherapists for Sexual Diversity (PSD), a Los Angeles-based professional organization for clinicians and graduate students interested in sexual diversity issues.  For more information about PSD or Ryan’s research work, please email him at [email protected].


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  2. KJ~KayJAY says:

    Wow! What a kick ass discussion of the motivations behind BDSM and THANK you & Ryan for sharing such frank and simple approaches to handling JEALOUSY in both poly and monogamous relationships. And a BIG THANK YOU Dave for hanging in there on the kink fetish BDSM discussion!!! Sounds like things were hitting home in a deep way for you. And instead of cracking jokes you really opened up and showed exactly what you felt. This podcast is what “Sex Geeking” is all about….

  3. Matt Roberts says:

    I’m just listening to the podcast at the moment and after hearing the small discussion on polyamory vs swinging and mixing them up in the media, I thought I’d share this:
    It was actually front page online in one of our major news outlets and seems to me to not only get it right about the difference between swingers and the polyamorous (sp?) but be completely non-judgemental.
    Just to clarify, I am sex-positive and adventurous, but not polyamorous. It was just an interesting story, and to have it not be a “LOOK AT THESE CRAZY PEOPLE WITH THEIR HORRID SEX ANTICS” type story seems to be a bonus.

  4. Nothingman says:

    so love the show and just wanted to ask who is MONIKA SIAUW and why is everything in the episode’s tags named for her?