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Episode 1: Sex Nerd Sandra
Foreplay +

Sex Nerd Sandra #1: Foreplay +

Sandra nerds out on her favorite toy, then Sex Educator Mary joins us for how to use Craigslist to get laid (+ giant penis story). Enter Dr. Hernando Chaves for the safe sex talk & man feelings. PLUS Q&A! Dirty Talk, Magic Wand & Approaching Women.

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  1. Raj says:

    Love to have an experience with u Sandra. U r hottt ! 

  2. Naj says:

    HOLY CRAP! That last question is EXACTLY what I needed to hear! I never thought of it that way. Douche’s do “things”, but doing those “things” doesn’t necessarily make you a douche too.

  3. Sanjay says:

    I found this site that you can check on. Enjoy.

  4. Seersucker says:

    Okay, I’d like to thank the makers of the podcast just for the fact, Yes I am a nerd, and one of the many things I have a bitter disposition about is prudishness, and the shying away from sex, relationships, and otherwise gooey topics. In which I usually respond to by, shoving their nose in it which usually results in a comfortable conversation. sex has always been a comfortable topic to me, and I’m glad to see Someone is influencing the majority to be such.
    First, when they mentioned nerds do it better, I flipped because the things that were stated as a back bone to that is so true. I hate to say so, but just remember revenge of the nerds, they brought back that same argument, “All jocks ever think about is sports, all nerds ever think about is sex” and I hadn’t realized I did that until I saw that movie. I knew that if I ever got myself hold a girl I knew exactly what to do if she was willing because of my curiosity and will to learn. Dr. Hernando Chaves brought up a decent point towards the end as well though, consisting of strengths and weaknesses towards Initiation, to familiarity to infatuation. Where I had a hell of a time with initiation and could only have girls that engaged me because of my crippling Shut-in behavior and overall Antisocial-ness, which didn’t work for the fact any girl I would be happy with was also of my disposition, viscous circle indeed. Luckily The viscous circle was broken by my loving wife, who is a nerd as well, but a Thespian… there you go.

  5. zuijexari says:

    Great show. As far as the advice on how to get a woman. I would have to say it was not that solid. Yes being chivalrous is great but only if a woman already likes you. Otherwise it can come off as needy and like you are putting her on a pedestal.

    I think the best literature on attracting women is a book called
    “The Game” by rock interviewer extraoirdinaire Neil Strauss.

  6. Brie Dresden says:

    Hi Sandra,

    Do you know what is the real name of Mary who happened discussed with you in a podcast along with Dr. Chaves? Does she have a website as a matter of fact?

    Have you ever traveled extensively to other states as you conduct workshops topics or seminars? I have just listened to one of your podcasts about foreplay and it was hilarious yet educational especially when you said, “I know about G-Spot and I’m not horny yet?” and later when Mary said, ” I have seen so many dicks in my” ありがとうございます。

  7. @Paul – in case you see this, you could always send her a fun article on sex toys, maybe something about toys in movies or just rent the movie. There have been sex toy cameos in all sorts of movies, like “The Kids are Alright” “The Ugly Truth” & “Zack & Miri Make a Porno”.

    It’s fine to say, “Hey, that looks interesting. What do you think?” If you two have been sharing your sexuality with each other for a while, it’s always good to be able to talk about it, too. Not just about toys. About everything.

    2 intro suggestions:
    *Go Small with a vibrating cocking (hands free)
    *Go Big with a back massager so that it’s innocent seeming.

    Good luck!

  8. Paul says:

    Hey Sandra, I love the podcast and I have a question or possible podcast topic.

    How, as a guy, can I introduce my wife to toys? She’s never used any at least since we have been together, but I feel like it would add a lot to our sex life to add a small vibe or some other fun stuff. A friend and his wife said to start small, but how do I introduce the topic? I’m a little more adventurous than she is, but I’d really like to add a little flavor…

  9. @Johnny C – Hey! thanks for asking. That’s a common series of questions. I’ll mark it down as a definite topic.

    In an oversimplified nutshell, there is so much more to satisfying sex than size. However, our culture tends to downplay learning skills to please our partner and we are left to figure it out on our own. So there is an over-dependence on trouser snake species.

    Here’s a link to something I wrote about it:

    Hope that helps for now!

  10. Johnny C says:

    Moderate sidenote, my forthocoming about my questions and such is due to drinking, and on that note, are there any thoughts upon the notion of “whiskey dick”? I ask because I had heard only negative things when discussing drinking and sexual endeavors, however, in light of current uncomfortable conditions, can alcohol increase sexual longevity?

    I ask knowing that with this post (and the second half of my last post), I have become an annoyance, and for that I do apologize…..

  11. Johnny C says:

    Just finished listening and I have two questions. One has been addressed time and time again, however in light of Mary speaking about that first craigslist “connection”, maybe it should be asked again. Does size matter? As a (hopefully) average male, I can’t say that I could send pictures of my member to women and have them have sex with me twice, so do men of less than herculean size need to augement our pursuit of women based on our less than impressive trouser-snakes?
    Sorry, seems there was a two part question, then a single part question…..
    Question 2 is….. For the less than average men out there (yeah, I may have lied in the first section saying I was average), can you go into some detail about how to use what God gave us to please our female partners? Reading about what to do is entirely different than actually doing it, or in this case hearing about it from sexual instructors, and I am hoping to get some tips so I’m not disapointing to my girlfriend…..

  12. defrgtm says:

    Would you consider doing a post/podcast on safe sex for “positive” people – of all kinds – (as you put it)?

    I would’ve emailed you with details and all that, but I don’t know your address.

    [email protected]

  13. Zak R says:

    Excellent! I’m looking forward to hearing more from interesting experts, not to mention the hilarious anecdotes! Also, when I first found out that “sexology” was a real thing some months ago, I couldn’t stop cracking up about it — especially the name of the professional journal! I don’t know, something about its seriousness just seems funny to me.

  14. Andrew says:

    What a great Podcast!
    Edutainment galore!
    Sandra obviously has a lot of experience speaking to people in open forums and that makes her a GREAT host!
    I’ll definitely listen to this again and spread this podcast to others. Glad to have this around. : )

  15. Roel says:

    This was really good, funny, witty, smart and very educating. Loved it.
    I’m looking forward to the next Episode.
    Thanks and keep it up!

  16. Really dug the show. I love the enthusiasm and personality showing through. Wish I could hang out with more people who are more open about this stuff like you guys but it’s pretty slim where I am (a hardship of living in a small Midwestern town). Keep up the good work and you just might beat out the “Sex With Emily” podcast I go to for this kind of stuff.

  17. Carter says:

    Very interesting show, looking forward to seeing how the show develops. For those of us who can’t make it in for the cunnilingus class, will there be instructional sections?

  18. Yay! I’m glad you all are enjoying it.

    If you want to see a few pics from that night, click on my name to be transported to!

  19. edicius says:

    Just finished listening and it was a triumph. Great first episode, Sandra.

  20. Ben says:

    Awesome! Hope you do a show about watching porn with your partner!

  21. Rob Shift says:

    Hilarious, SexNerdSandra has a bunch of Chris Hardwick style inflections.

    Great show.

  22. KW says:

    got really tripped up by the melody at the beginning, hadn’t heard it in forever! nice little homage to savage love (maybe..?) 🙂

  23. stephen says:

    very great show, i already subscribed, and cant wait for the next one!

  24. Ray says:

    Great show very entertaining. Glad the Sexnerd finally premiered .

  25. SWC says:

    This was soooo fantastic, smart and funny! Plus… I learned things! #hooray #applause