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Episode 102: Sex Nerd Sandra
Kink Catastrophes (and…
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Sex Nerd Sandra #102: Kink Catastrophes (and Comic-Con bonus recap!)

THE CSI OF SEX! Author, expert and BDSM catastrophe reconstruction specialist Jay Wiseman shares common reasons why scenes go terribly wrong. But first, Sandra learns life lessons at Comic-Con!

TOPICS: Bill Nye, Nerd HQ, Thrilling Adventure Hour, Hollywood Healing, Creativity, The Nipple Police, Matt Smith. THEN: Poly Marriage, Owner/slave Marriage, Major Changes in BDSM, Morbid Tragedies Galore, Silver Linings, The 3 Day Rule, 16 Point Negotiation, Setting Yourself up to Live, A Fatal Venn Diagram, Highly Restrictive Bondage, An Ol’ Whorehouse Trick, Gag Mishap, 60 Second Escape Rule, Auto-erotic Asphyxiation, “Failed Self-Rescue Mechanisms,” Triggering Cardiac Arrest, 5 Second Access Rule, Fatal Fisting, Kinky Crosswords, and Changing the World for the Better!

Jay Wiseman has over 35 years of experience in BDSM and was one of the early pioneers and builders of the BDSM community in the San Francisco area. He continues to be heavily involved, both in his local area and nationally, as an SM author, educator, mentor, workshop leader, video producer, expert witness, and activist.

Noted for being both an exceptionally knowledgeable and highly entertaining presenter, he is very much in demand and has given hundreds of presentations on various aspects of health, relationships, and sexuality in more than 70 cities in the United States and Canada.

After receiving his law degree in 2005 and passing the bar exam in 2006, he sometimes works as a part-time law school professor. His areas of special legal interest include providing legal support for alternative communities, teaching bar exam preparation, search and seizure law, and conflict resolution.

Jay is the author of the frequently recommended book “SM 101: A Realistic Introduction.” His website is, predictably,

Check out Jay’s 16 Point Negotation Form!


  1. tina v says:

    single mixture! In Orlando, Florida our convention MegCon always has a speed date on Saturday and Sunday. My 18 year kid decided to try it out.